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So How's Your

Life?

                           

Really how is it? Are you part of the fortunate ones who get lucky on the regular or are you having to try to schedule it whenever possible. In this day & age it seems that trying to schedule some bedroom magic is a hurdle in itself. Between busy jobs, kids & just not having any energy the once explosive passion couples shared seems to have fluttered into oblivion. Some couples are like ships that pass in the night & others don't let anything hold them back from achieving that ultimate "O". But what can one do to keep that spark alive?



We all know how frustrated men can become if they don't get laid. But women too become sexually frustrated for various reasons. From their men paying more attention to sports to the technology age where men spend more time on the computer or gaming system then in the bed. However there has to be some compromise somewhere. Women can't use the "I have a headache" excuse anymore. For couples who have been together for many years the drive that they once had to be intimate can become a challenge now. This could be because things become so routine that it feels like more of a chore than exhilarating. But how can couples change this cycle of lost lust?

Try to remember the times when you were first were in courtship. Sex was in abundance no matter when or where, you made the time to get your freak on & keep each other high off of what you brought to the bedroom or where ever you did your deed. Relationships now have become so complacent that you look at each other with less vigor & less desire. Why is this? We just can't keep using the excuse of being tired. Sexual relations is a very important part of any relationship & needs to be treated & respected as such. Relationships whither when this part disappears. The reasons I gave above about work & kids is justification to a degree but you should never forget that you both need to take part in keeping the once heart pounding, groin grinding lust alive.

 

Make it happen. Don't let anything hold you back. Take the horse by the reigns & lead the way. It's all about the energy you put into it.  Reintroduce your lustful & playful self to your lover. Let him/her know that you still feel butterflies when they walk into the room. And not only be spontaneous in your actions but also represent your love to him/her with all your emotional, mental & physical attributes. Make your lover feel incredibly desirable & let them know how bad you want to make them cum. Please all their senses & you shall be victorious in your endeavor. Good Luck!!

 





 

Downtown Throw Down

This socially taboo topic is the fire to the flame, the gravy to the potatoes & the icing to the cake of sex acts. It's such a shunned on expression of one's love to the other however in some states it's a crime to have oral relations. These fabulous foreplay techniques brings on the ultimate of arousal & for those who can learn how to master it will have overly satisfied lovers in life. We've covered the art of the kiss & how the erogenous zones are an overlooked & under stimulated component to true love making, now we will advance to the highly anticipated joy & sensuality that oral love making can bring to a relationship.

 

For the men who enjoy giving a woman such a delightful tongue lashing you already know how to deliver sensations within the road map of a woman's flower. But for those who don't, take heed to the lessons you're about to experience. As I covered in the Vulva section on erogenous zones you must cater entirely to a woman's delicacies with admiration & enthusiasm in order for her response to be of the highest accord.  I will go in to great detail of all the aspects of cunnilingus & the arousal levels each move you make will create.  Let's start with these simple oral steps for pleasing a woman so that you yourself can become an oral-gasm connoisseur.

 

Many women themselves should already know that they must first ensure that they are clean & fresh so they can be ready to have their vittles diddled. This definitely should be a plus if you want your lover to take their time & enjoy the marination process of lapping away at your private dancer. So here is the clear laid out path for true punani worshipping.

 

1. Tease, Tease & More Tease Please...with all the fun of foreplay nothing excites more than the anticipation for you to indulge in the heated aroma of your lover's natural sauciness, however before you commence to partake in such lavishness you must rely on the erogenous zone plan to ensure that her blooming rose has flourished & is in it's truest form of eagerness. To begin to get her into this mode, you must rely on your senses to adhere to your lovers target points. We covered numerous hot spots in my last blog so moving forward to the focal point of cunnilingus, we must go further into the anatomical design of a woman's pleasure garden. As you can see in the diagram below there are key areas to pay close attention to.

 

2. Tongue Flick-HER...be spontaneous with your tongue. Unpredictable lapping will cause your lover to have multiple reactions to your lathering of her vulva. She will start to gyrate, grind, push towards you & pull you in for deeper drool action. Remember to work slowly so that you both can enhance the pleasure. The longer you spend catering to her gushy goodies the better you will be at bringing her to orgasm. As you see in the diagram above there's truly not a spot that you can pinpoint as the starting spot, however never really start at the clitoris. Even though this is the most sensitive & desirable area of coverage I must point out that you must give in to the surrounding petals of this flower to work your way to the bud.  You can kiss & pet the pubic mound while rubbing the inner & outer labia which should be very much in glisten mode at this point if you are doing the right thing. An area that gets hardly any oral recognition is the perineum. This area as you can see is located between the vagina & anus. This highly sensitive location entraps alot of the moistness that the vagina secretes. Don't be afraid if your tongue drifts further down to the anus. This is also a highly stimulated area that women & men alike don't often realize.   Remember to acknowledge that your lover is safe & clean in all aspects of hygiene before engaging in any oral stimulation. From this area you should move your way up to the vulva in either direction but don't forget to go from right to left & vice versa around both sides of the vulva giving as much attention to the labia as possible. Take them into your mouth & lightly suck them & play with them between your lips. She will love this & you will know it by her buttocks raising up & her pulling you closer to her. Her pants & moans will also increase the more you explore & hit target spots with precision. As you are orally catering to your lover you could be rubbing her clitoris or fingering her vagina to create multiple levels of arousal. Again there's no set amount of time one focuses on to go down on a woman however once you get to her engorged clitoris her reactions should be hair tugging, ear pulling, or sheet grabbing. All in all if you follow this rhythm around her precious folds you will have her in bliss & that is a win/win.

 

3. Rock Her To Gasmland...now remember she doesn't always have to be on her back for her to enjoy your mouth service. You can turn her over for her to lay belly down & you can prep her cookie from behind as you lay between her legs. Alot of women enjoy having their ass played with while getting some lower lip service as well. So spread them cheeks wide & delve into her deliciousness. You can palm her vulva as you once again tongue dart her perineum & anus. Also you yourself can lay on your back & have her grind her mound onto your face. Remember to not neglect her perky breasts during this process either. Just reach up & pinch her nipples & squeeze her ample breasts while you muster your chin into her vagina as your nose & tongue tickle her clitoris. Either way you go at this pleasure ride she should be taken over the edge. Remember communication is key so ensure that your lover is enjoying your methods & respect her if she becomes too sensitive. Don't push to much otherwise the results can be a downer.

 

Now it's only fair that a woman returns the favor in the game of foreplay. I know some women feel awkward in the approach or even the thought of it but it's truly a wonderful experience. You must realize how ever good you feel receiving oral from your lover is just what your lover will feel in return so why not explore this as well. If your ultimate goal is to satisfy by all means then this should be part of your repertoire. But the joy a woman can feel from pleasing her lover can also enhance her own arousal.

 

OK ladies let's go over some things for you to understand about the male oral perspective. Like yourself the male anatomy has certain hot spots also. Not as plentiful as yourself however still some important areas of coverage that must be aroused.  No diagram is needed for this but we will cover the main target points.

1.  The Glans...this would be designated as the head of the penis however there are two sides that bring a different sensation to men. What men may call the "shroom" which would be the upper region of the penis head has less sensations than the underside which is called the "trigger" as in a gun. All it takes is just the right pressure with your mouth or tongue & the shooting will commence.

2. The Shaft...of course this is the region that grows with arousal & is considered the thickest part of the penis. Again it also has two sides of sensations with the underside being the most prevalent when aroused. When you lick up/down the shaft while stroking the head you will feel it get thicker & harder & if you look up at your lover while doing it you will see by the expressions just how it makes him feel.

3.  The Scrotum...of course these are the testicles that are truly a sensitive part of the male anatomy that when attended to must be done with great sensuality & care due to the sensitivity. However it's a huge turn on for the man if this area gets some attention as well.

4. The Perineum...yes men have one too which is located below the scrotum & above the anus. Not alot of women ever pay this area any mind but it also has sensitive nerve endings that can bring a man pleasure.

5.  The Prostate...some women have also licked or fingered the anus during the oral process due to the new pleasure men find in prostate stimulation. Again know your partner & ensure there is great hygiene techniques used prior to performing this act.

These areas are basically the prime spots for you to focus on to bring your lover to total erection & readiness for your love making session.

And lastly another special treat is when you want to please each other simultaneously which is called doing the "69". This is when either partner lays down & the other partner lays on top of them with their sexual anatomies at face level. That way both are getting stimulation together & bonding at the same time. This position can be done laying down or standing up. It's tremendously pleasurable & can connect a couple on all levels from physical to mental to emotional. Being on the same page will bring great joy not only to your oral experience but to the overall love making session.

So folks there it is in a nutshell. The incredible oral pleasure experience. Hopefully you've become enriched in yet another of my blogs on the topic of sexual enjoyment. I look forward to continuing to provide informative & entertaining topics soon. I will also dabble in tackling some erotic vignette writings as well. Thanks again for following me.

  



 

Lip Service

Kissing is the most universally understood sign of affection in this world. It can be delivered from a gentle peck to a hot & heavy tongue twirl. The passion one gives & receives from such intimate contact can lead to seductive & intense sessions of shared bliss. The connection that transpires from such intimate caresses can send waves of stimulation throughout your body. However lovers must realize that the lip connection goes far beyond the mouth. As teenagers we all "necked" so-to-speak which of course was very intense kissing with some ear nibbling & neck pecking which of course led to hickeys. But as you mature & learn more about pleasure the kiss becomes an art of love making that can be the paintbrush on the canvas of ecstasy.

 

Never underestimate how the tongue & lips can generate goosebumps along the torso of your lover. From the nape of the neck to the crease above the buttocks the level of pleasure that this powerful muscle can deliver can be electrifying. Some focus their attention primarily on the main parts of the body which to them are the mouth, the breasts, the ass & the anatomy. What's not paid attention to is there are so many more nooks & crannies on the human body that will stir the hottest desires & have your lover/partner arching their back & curling their toes. These special areas are known as erogenous zones. Some say there are up to 100 of these spots on the body. Some of these spots can cause mild to intense stimulation. However using just the right touch whether it be from your hands or mouth can have hairs standing on end if properly applied.

 

People aren't born with the talent to discover these prime locations of pleasure. But with educating yourself to be a satisfying lover you can easily learn to keep the bedroom a happening place or wherever you decide to enjoy your intimate moments. So lets break down a few key spots for you to focus your attention to:

The Head - There are many different stimulation points here. The lips are the obvious primary area, however the scalp has multiple levels of sensations which are brought out during an intimate massage to the hair follicles. These sensations can be relaxing to intense  depending on the individual. Some people like to have their hair pulled during foreplay or intercourse which creates waves of pleasure to those who enjoy it.  Next we have the ears where you can whisper sweet nothings & trickle your tongue/lips around the lobe or behind the ear.  Then of course you have the neck which has so many nerve endings which can easily be stimulated with the lips/tongue. From under the chin to each side & around to the back where the neck connects to the spine.

 

The Torso - This is a great area that should have massive attention paid to it during foreplay & during lovemaking. From the kisses to tongue caresses, one can't go wrong with the multitude of stimulation points on the torso. The obvious of course are the breasts. The aureoles are full of nerve endings that aren't just at the nipple. Kissing & sucking all around the breast can bring on intense stimulation. From one side to the other you must show equal attention to each breast & remember to not forget the underside of them as well. Next this should lead you to the abdomen area which may also tickle your lover/partner but ignites the juices of the lower region which will come in time for you to connect with. Don't forget as interesting & eyebrow raising as it may be, the area under the arm is a hot spot too. Women are very sensitive in this region which of course relates to tickling as a child but as an adult it creates a whole different sensation. Don't knock it til you try it. The torso just doesn't consist of the front of the body. The back also has many areas that can enjoy your hands, mouth & tongue too. From the nape of the neck, down the spine & to the tailbone area. If the right amount of pressure is used it can have backs arching & hips grinding. And lastly don't forget the arms, hands & fingers.The arm kissing down to the bend of the arm is a very under stimulated area. Kissing it & lightly tongue tapping your way down to the wrist & then kissing the palm of the hand & sucking/licking the fingers are all different ways to stir up different sensations of arousal.

 

The Legs - Oh how sweet it is to worship the tender yet firm areas of the inner thighs. The gasps you will receive from the steady approach of your breath & lips/tongue can stir up an array of physical reactions. Starting from the outer reaches of the ass around & down to the back of the knees...hint fellas. I'll say it again back of the knees where the leg bends. Alot of concentrated effort should be made to introduce your touch whether it be by hand massage or gentle oral caresses. Then you can continue your trek down the calf to the ankle & heel of the foot which can be massaged with steady rhythm. This will relax your lover/partner & give you some control. While massaging her heels & sole you can lick or suck her toes. Watch the reaction as your lover/partner's lips part & her pelvic region responds to the abundance of sensations it feel from the various actions your are performing on their foot. Working both legs/feet up & down with tender kisses/caresses will give you the result you long for upon your arrival to her overly moistened folds of glory.

The Buttocks - Believe it or not the ass can be a super power to the heat a woman feels between her legs. Not only can you cater to it with kisses, but light smacks brings some to the boiling point of arousal. Alot of different sensations are felt when you grab yourself some of that sexy flesh & just bury your face into it. It's best if your lover/partner is on all 4's & you cascade the arch of their back with tender licks/kisses as you approach her ample bubble & give it plenty of kisses/licks all around including the crack. You can spread their cheeks & feel the heat rise from their creamy center. This process will lead you to the ultimate level of your lover/partner being more than ready for your next move.

The Vulva - Without a doubt this is the HOT spot. But if all the above is done prior to the highly anticipated visit you will need a bib or a roll of Bounty on hand to clean up the mess. No joke on that. Your lover/partner's folds will glisten & be at full exposure for your loving approach. Now before you get all ancy & try to go at it with vengeance, ease back & continue to arouse her beyond words. Most people think the clitoris is the only region that desires to be loved. However that is a myth. There are other areas that deserve some equal attention. Before you even begin to glaze the old chin, start at the upper inner thigh that connects her legs to her torso. This is a very sensitive area that you can kiss, nibble & lick with just the right pressure. Her back will be arched, her pelvis will be gyrating as you get closer to the promise land. You will feel immense heat coming from her vagina & feel the wetness that awaits your touch. At this point you can begin your tender licks from the bottom to the top. Kiss around her vulva up to her pubic mound & back around again. Spread her labia so that you can start to focus your attention on them taking each into your mouth & lightly giving them a massage with your lips/tongue. Splash your tongue around the vaginal entrance & engulf the flowing juices that you've created by all of your actions. Lick up/down her labia, as you do your nose will be tickling her rosebud increasing her arousal. At this point you can tease her clitoris by lapping at it or just taking it between your lips. Some gentle humming can create a vibration of sorts that will have her tugging at your hair & pulling you in deeper for more. All women are different in the amount of arousal they can withstand so please pay close attention to her reactions. No matter how much you enjoy giving this method to her she may only be able to take so much due to her sensitivity. That's why once again communication is key in the relationship.

 

So remember to keep that passion a top priority when it comes to your love making. And with that I end this blog session & hope you've enjoyed reading my points of view of how & what to do with your lover/partner with one of the greatest muscles you possess...YOUR MOUTH. And I remind you to keep me updated on what more you would like to read so that I can provide you a platform of informative & entertaining topics pertaining to human sexuality. 

 

Explore & Endure

Female self pleasure seems to be a topic most women won't acknowledge, but yet adult toy sales are consistently escalating.  So why is it that women won't share in these moments they spend catering to their own needs. Men never seem to care who knows when they take matters into their own hands. Supposedly generations ago this ritual was deemed so taboo that it was considered a sin of sorts to do such things. However as adolescents or some even in their early to mid teens discovered, tingles & butterflies would arise just thinking about someone of the opposite or like sex. This would in today's society be deemed a normality. However it still seems to be something kept quiet & handled in private.  

 

The obvious joy one seeks while exploring their bodies can be truly enlightening. The old saying of you can't expect someone to love you if you don't love yourself is taken into full consideration when it comes to masturbation. I truly believe that learning about your own body & what it feels like to get to that ultimate moment can lead to healthy sexual relationships. Not everyone goes into relationships being that perfect lover. No one knows what to expect from one's touch. Communication should play a very key part in what you want when it comes to relations. Let your lover/partner know what feels good & what doesn't. Respect their wishes & don't push limits. Allow the moment to commence as nature intended.

 

But back to the topic of women & their own self pleasuring ways. Why do you think women don't like to share in their personal desires? It could be a super turn on for someone to watch their lover/partner entice themselves. Even in a mutual pattern. Looking at one another & seeing the kind of touches that makes your pants turn to moans & moans turn to gasps can truly enrich a relationship. It's what I would consider Sexucation.

 

 

So ladies don't grip the sheets alone. Share your pleasure with your lover/partner. Invite them into what takes you over the edge. This not only will make your relationship stronger but could ignite intense love making sessions that will have you both left spent to no end & maintain a healthy & exciting relationship. The opportunities are endless with so many variations of play. With various generations of women into the Fifty Shades Of Grey by E. L James it can lead into even more exciting times in their lives. From the fantasies, to toy play, to passionate encounters; there's just so many directions you can take your seductive desires.

 

I will continue to touch on topics of our sexual society that hopefully has you ponder your own experiences & are willing to share. I welcome all comments so that I can grow in this blogosphere & keep you coming back for more of my intellect. I appreciate your time & thank you.